Written By Marie Rimmer.
What do you focus your mind on everyday? Do you have things that you think about that take your mind into a nice place or a place of misery and pain? What you focus on the most, tells a lot about you as a person. Did you know that? When you take the time to give your mind to things that are bad and negative, something about you is making you feel obligated to worry about these negative bad things. What is it? What has your brain all tied up and bound with mess?
Our thoughts do not just happen just because it is what our brain chooses to do, we have thoughts that are based on something that makes us begin to think about people, places, things, and etc. Something is there giving us this information. What is it? Could it be a memory? Something that happened a long time ago, that we cannot forget and it just keeps on coming up? Could there be triggers? Things that we see and hear, things that activate our senses that bring us back to that memory? a smell? a touch? reading certain words? That makes us focus so much on what is bad, vs what is good? Having a negative mind comes from thinking negative things right? But what makes us think these things? Assumptions? Facts? Experience?
It has always been something strange for me to notice, that when thinking, why choose to go with the bad thought over the good one? Couldn't we easily just think good things? It may be possible, we can think positive all the time, have happy thoughts and think good things and never think anything bad ever, but is that real? Would that be reality? Because bad things do still exist in this world and are still around, coming from other people, so how then can we just be 100% positive all the time? Would that make something off or wrong with ourselves? I don't think so. I don't think there is a way to be 100% happy and positive all of the time, never showing or doing anything bad or negative. But, I do think we can control the amount of negative thoughts we have and choose to think better about certain situations and including the way we think about ourselves.
The above quote, do you think it is true? I know you cannot think negative and positive at the same time, but could you possibly change your thoughts often within a day enough to go with the positive side more than the negative? Being able to stay focused is a hard task for many people, and there seems to always be something that takes that focus and moves it to something else. It could be the TV being on, it can be the phone ringing and your texts wanting your attention. It can also be yourself. You can be distracting yourself from your main focus and goal. You can be doing that by just thinking bad about yourself and your goals. Thinking you cannot do something, or thinking you don't have what it takes to finish. You are distracting yourself. Did you know that? Did you know that you can be your own distraction? Yes, it is true. I find myself doing it all of the time, letting thoughts come in that take my focus off of what I am doing. Or letting my thoughts convince me to not do something because of the "what if" of other's opinions or actions, actions that have not even been completed by them yet, I have not even gotten an answer from my audience, yet I had already convinced myself ahead of time they would reject what I was bringing to them. That is the worse way to think. How can I speak for people? How can I really know the answer if I don't ask? I can't. But, there had to be a reason why I was this way, and why I kept on doing this to myself. Why couldn't I just present what I had with confidence then let them decide for themselves? Confidence lacking? Worried about rejection? Scared of the response? I have no idea, but I do know I am working on it daily. I have to stop sabotaging myself like that. It is one thing to have someone else plan to bring you down, but when you bring yourself down, that is a whole different level and it needs attention. It has to be evaluated, work to find the answer to why you do that. If you love yourself you would not hurt yourself right? So why kill your own confidence and hope? Yeah, I know I have a lot of work to do with getting rid of doing this to myself, and I have worked every day to make sure I did even little tasks to stop myself when I find I am about to sabotage my actions. I have built up my confidence day by day, little by little, and I have worked to find the triggers to why I do that. I write things out and I ask myself many questions working to find the answers. It is a work in progress but at least I am working on it. Are you working to stop sabotaging yourself? If not, then get started, being able to stay focused on your goals has to come from a clear vision. Leave a comment and tell what ways do you sabotage yourself and stop your efforts? Also don't forget to get your copy of my Ebook to help you take the necessary steps to getting rid of the negative mess.
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